Trust

I wanted to address our very first comment and thank you for asking such a very important question.  "Those who were were sexually abused as children are taught through the abuse not to trust.  So then how do we allow ourselves to trust? How do we begin to trust the Healer?"

I look to others who have experience with this to please share. I do know that trust can be rebuilt with repeated positive experiences. I also know that this process can be teeth grinding, white knuckle, finger nail biting --scary! Regaining the ability to trust is the core of the healing process. Trust is at the center of all meaningful relationships. Without trust there is no giving, no bonding and no risk taking. Regaining trust requires vulnerability. Vulnerability is scary for anyone, but it is especially scary to those who were hurt so deeply during the most vulnerable period of life -childhood. The process of learning to trust again requires patience with yourself, allowing yourself to be vulnerable in small doable ways-feeling the success-and opening up a little bit more. I love TED talks and you will find me referring to some of them along the way. Brene Brown talks about vulnerability. Take a look ...

Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability | Video on TED.com

She has another great talk on Shame that we will refer to in another post. I have lots to say about Shame!

President Holland has said so beautifully; 

"I offer the surest and sweetest remedy that I know. It is found in the clarion call the Savior of the world Himself gave. He said it in the beginning of His ministry, and He said it in the end. He said it to believers, and He said it to those who were not so sure. He said to everyone, whatever their personal problems might be:

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

“Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.”²

He is saying to us, “Trust me, learn of me, do what I do. Then, when you walk where I am going,” He says, “we can talk about where you are going, and the problems you face and the troubles you have. If you will follow me, I will lead you out of darkness,” He promises. “I will give you answers to your prayers. I will give you rest to your souls.”In this promise, that introductory phrase, “come unto me,” is crucial. It is the key to the peace and rest we seek. (Broken Things to Mend, Ensign April 2006)

Sounds beautiful -but I recognize that figuring out how to do this is the hard part. Again I look to each of you to share what has worked for you. There will be lots more to come ahead about trust, vulnerabilty and shame!